There is a certain kind of man who is very good at handling things. He figures things out. When something breaks, he fixes it. And when there is a problem at work, he handles it. When his family needs something, he finds a way to make it happen. Or when life gets difficult, he puts his head down and keeps...[ read more ]
Divorce can be strange because the relationship may end in one day, but the process of becoming yourself again can take much longer. There are practical things to deal with first. Where will you live? What happens with the house? How will finances change? What does the custody schedule look like? How will holidays work? Who gets what? What do...[ read more ]
You replay the conversation on the drive home. Did I say the wrong thing? Did they think I was being rude? Why did I phrase it that way? Maybe I should have said something different. You tell yourself to let it go, but your brain keeps going. Later that night, you find yourself replaying the conversation again. You analyze their...[ read more ]
There is a particular kind of loneliness that can be difficult to explain. You can have a partner, children, coworkers, friends, family, and a full calendar and still feel profoundly alone. And you can talk to people all day and go home at night with the uncomfortable feeling that no one really knows you. You may even be the person...[ read more ]
Anger can be confusing. You may know that you’re angry, but you may not understand why the reaction feels so much bigger than the situation. Maybe someone says something that hits a nerve and suddenly you’re yelling. Maybe a small disagreement with your partner turns into a huge argument. Or maybe you walk away because you know that if you...[ read more ]
For a long time, therapy wasn’t something many men talked about. You handled your own problems. And you talked to your friends. You went to the gym. And you worked harder. You had a few drinks. You went fishing. And you kept yourself busy. And if something was really bothering you, you probably figured you’d eventually get over it. But...[ read more ]
There is a version of masculinity that teaches men to handle things themselves. Don’t complain. Don’t show too much emotion. Figure it out. Keep moving. Be strong for everyone else. For a lot of men, those messages start early. You learn how to solve problems, provide, protect, push through discomfort, and keep your emotions under control. Those qualities can be...[ read more ]
Have you ever looked around at your life and thought, I have so much to be grateful for…so why do I still feel like this? Maybe you’re getting up every morning, going to work, taking care of your family, answering texts, making dinner, and checking all the boxes. From the outside, no one would guess you’re struggling. But inside? You’re...[ read more ]
Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone Else? Most of the men I work with are dependable. They’re the ones people call when something goes wrong. And they’re the problem-solvers at work, the providers at home, the friend who shows up, the dad who rarely misses a game, and the husband who carries the weight of making sure everyone else...[ read more ]
You love your partner. At least, you know you do. So why do you keep doing the exact opposite of what you want? Why do you shut down when they want to talk? And why do you become defensive over something small? Why do you pull away just when things start feeling close? And why does it feel easier to...[ read more ]