You replay the conversation on the drive home. Did I say the wrong thing? Did they think I was being rude? Why did I phrase it that way? Maybe I should have said something different. You tell yourself to let it go, but your brain keeps going. Later that night, you find yourself replaying the conversation again. You analyze their...[ read more ]
There is a particular kind of loneliness that can be difficult to explain. You can have a partner, children, coworkers, friends, family, and a full calendar and still feel profoundly alone. And you can talk to people all day and go home at night with the uncomfortable feeling that no one really knows you. You may even be the person...[ read more ]
Anger can be confusing. You may know that you’re angry, but you may not understand why the reaction feels so much bigger than the situation. Maybe someone says something that hits a nerve and suddenly you’re yelling. Maybe a small disagreement with your partner turns into a huge argument. Or maybe you walk away because you know that if you...[ read more ]
For a long time, therapy wasn’t something many men talked about. You handled your own problems. And you talked to your friends. You went to the gym. And you worked harder. You had a few drinks. You went fishing. And you kept yourself busy. And if something was really bothering you, you probably figured you’d eventually get over it. But...[ read more ]
There is a version of masculinity that teaches men to handle things themselves. Don’t complain. Don’t show too much emotion. Figure it out. Keep moving. Be strong for everyone else. For a lot of men, those messages start early. You learn how to solve problems, provide, protect, push through discomfort, and keep your emotions under control. Those qualities can be...[ read more ]
Have you ever looked around at your life and thought, I have so much to be grateful for…so why do I still feel like this? Maybe you’re getting up every morning, going to work, taking care of your family, answering texts, making dinner, and checking all the boxes. From the outside, no one would guess you’re struggling. But inside? You’re...[ read more ]
Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone Else? Most of the men I work with are dependable. They’re the ones people call when something goes wrong. And they’re the problem-solvers at work, the providers at home, the friend who shows up, the dad who rarely misses a game, and the husband who carries the weight of making sure everyone else...[ read more ]
You love your partner. At least, you know you do. So why do you keep doing the exact opposite of what you want? Why do you shut down when they want to talk? And why do you become defensive over something small? Why do you pull away just when things start feeling close? And why does it feel easier to...[ read more ]
If you’ve ever said, “I don’t even know what I’m worried about, but I can’t stop thinking,” you’re not alone. Most of the men I work with aren’t having panic attacks every day. They’re going to work. Paying the bills. Coaching their kids’ sports teams. Leading meetings. Taking care of everyone around them. From the outside, they look like they...[ read more ]
You’ve worked hard to build a good life. You have a career. You provide for your family. You’ve accomplished goals that many people never reach. On paper, there’s no reason you should feel anxious all the time. Yet your mind never seems to slow down. You’re always thinking about what could go wrong. You replay conversations after they happen. You...[ read more ]